Take a Walk in My Shoes First… Janet Smedile

The following is a post by a friend in regards to some tasteless jokes/status that have been circulating around Facebook.  It is with her permission that I am posting it here.  Sandy Moroney

After seeing some rather nasty posts and one-sided articles over the past two weeks about vaccines I am using my wall to rant a bit.

TRUTH – Many vaccinations contain neurotoxins in the form of preservatives and other such chemicals that are KNOWN to be harmful. The vaccination schedule is much more intensive than it used to be thus some infants / toddlers bodies / brains cannot handle it. Our Steve has a neurological condition that made him vulnerable from birth so I have researched this extensively. Many parents are choosing NOT to vaccinate their children. I understand why but I also have had to think about my child’s susceptibility to disease and the welfare of others. Here is what we did as parents: asked our doctor for preservative free vaccines and had the schedule be spread out. Our pediatrician was great about this. For the later vaccines Steve needed, the doctor did blood work to see if he already had immunity for some of the diseases and we vaccinated accordingly. It does not have to be an all or nothing issue. Also before anyone says that I don’t know about children with conditions thought to be caused or exacerbated by vaccinations or other environmental factors, I have worked with children with exceptional needs off and on since I was 19 as a teacher so I have taken the time to honestly look at this subject. For those of you who have not walked in my shoes – clean your own house before you try to clean mine. Sick of the bitching, sniping and whining on this subject – just like politics – go do something about it instead of posting stupid crap and inappropriate jokes about autism and other neurological disorders.

The Autism Club, It’s No Joke

Some things are important, some are not.
What is important, can sometimes depend on one’s perspective. Where you’re coming from, what kind of cards life has dealt you.
One thing that should always be important is respecting others, even when what they believe to be true is different from what you believe in. This should be basic stuff you learned in Kindergarten, though many who claim to be highly educated still have not learned this lesson.

Some times it is not the journey, but the destination that is important, which brings me to the point of the soap box rant de jour.

This past week, a friend on Facebook came across a post that contained a link that supposedly told how the MMR shots caused Autism.  When you clicked on the link, there was one sentence on the screen that read,  “They F***ing Don’t”.  Some how this was supposed to be a joke, and we all were going to have a good laugh.  Instead of laughter, my jaw dropped.  My brain actually froze for a second, as I could not believe how anyone, ANYONE could think this was remotely funny, or anything but insensitive.  It didn’t even matter to me, the how or why of Autism, but the fact that someone made a joke out of something so devastating to families all over the world. What were they going to do for a follow-up, make a joke that started, “Three Women with Breast Cancer go to a bar…”???  I was told the post “evaporated”, but the damage had already been done.

My point is, in this instance, the how or the why of Autism does not matter.  What matters is that Autism is not in any shape or form, funny.  Yes, laughter is the best medicine, but in this case the punch line was just a punch in the stomach, to those already suffering a devastating medical syndrome, that has no known cure.

You see, there is an unspoken Rule in this Autism Club, and it is no joke.  We have each other’s backs.  No matter what.  And Sometimes it is the only thing we in The Club can count on.

 

Smart Words, Please

There are still some groups of people, types of disorders, or general nuances that “OK” to make fun of, and Ridicule, all in the name of “It’s only a Joke”.

Mattie’s Sisters, Kath and Tina at Tina’s Graduation

I bring this up because lately, it seems, many are using the

ending “tard” with an explicative in front of it to make a joke or refer to someone or some thing that is beyond the obvious. And I wonder how many know what they are truly saying or inferring.

The Word “Retarded”, when used in it’s true and unbiased meaning, has never bothered me. It is when it is used to insult, or to demean, that it is unacceptable in my world. So to use it’s suffix with a swear in front of it, well, that could possibly be the worst. It is like adding insult to injury, almost literally. I am hoping that this new-ish word grouping will loose its popularity, as did the once accepted use of the word “gay” in the same instance, and become just a blip in our society’s misjudgment of each other.

As my Grandmother always told us when she heard someone cussing, “There is always a better word, Show them how Smart you are.”